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10 Reasons Why Traveling Alone Is Better Than Dating Someone

July 21, 2016

As kids, most of us dreamed of traveling the world, like a stylish jet-setter. We fantasized about numerous travel scenarios, such as relaxing on a pristine beach in Bora Bora, gazing in amazement at the Taj Mahal, and falling in love under the iconic Eiffel Tower in Paris. There has always been something mesmerizing about travel, and with the awe-inspiring stories and images shared by National Geographic and BBC, our sense of wanderlust became even stronger.

But when we hit our 20s, our yearning for travel starts to decline slowly. We become more occupied with our work, life and of course relationships. And for the most part, all of the travel experiences that we have been dreaming of since childhood turn into forgotten fantasies or a pipe dream.  Then, you take a look at your bucket list and scrapbooks, and you realize that could make it to your desired destination, but you need to save a bunch of money for your next anniversary.

If you have the chance to choose between traveling alone and dating, I urge you to cater to your wanderlust.  Don’t get me wrong – dating can be quite a fun and exciting ride. As a matter of fact, dating is a great experience that will teach you over a dozen of precious life lessons that help you grow as a person.

But, traveling alone can enrich your life as well as let you know more about yourself in ways being in a relationship and dating just can’t give you. And besides, you are eventually going to find the right person you want to settle down with, so in the meantime, learn more about yourself and the world by traveling alone.

1. You learn to face and solve problems on your own

Contrary to popular belief, traveling isn’t always about thrills, eye-catching spectacles and crazily fun experiences. From delayed flights and wrong turns to scams, there are tons of stumbling blocks, along your solo journey. But, guess what? These experiences can make you stronger, and teach you how to solve problems by yourself.  As the old saying goes, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.

Traveling alone can be a pretty steep learning curve, and oftentimes you have to make decisions on the spot as well as solve any problems that may arise.  As far as I’m concerned, it’s a great way to build your confidence, and show to yourself and everyone else what you are made of.

On the other hand, being in a relationship may sometimes mean depending on someone to sort your problems, which could take away a character-building aspect that will benefit you throughout your life.

2. You have the freedom to move and do anything you want

Relationships can be quite restricting. There’s always another person that you have to keep in mind, as you make your decision, and their wants and ideas may not be the same as yours. Compromise is an absolute must in any relationship, meaning you have to sacrifice a bit of freedom to make things work.

But, when you are traveling alone, you are literally free to roam the world without any restrictions from someone else. With no discussions and consultation, you are in complete control of your trip, and you can practically shape it the way you want it to be.

What if I date a traveler?  Even if you’re dating a person who loves to travel, it doesn’t mean your trips are going to be a breeze. Let’s face it, we all have different preferences, when it comes to traveling. Some want to backpack their way to a continent, while others prefer to relax and unwind in a luxurious seaside resort.

3. Traveling alone helps improve mental health

Solo travel opens your mind as well as carves out new and positive experiences that benefit directly your happiness levels and state of mind. Traveling alone will not only enrich your life, but it will also add unique perspectives and develop a positive mindset that will last for lifetime.

Relationships require a great deal of hard work, and though there are perks to having a good relationship, dating a person who’s a terrible match can bring a feeling of unhappiness and mental exhaustion.

4. It gives you an opportunity to explore all the possibilities

You may have a sweetheart that love at home, but have you ever thought about if there’s someone out there who’s better for you? Luckily for you, traveling the world, as a solo traveler, will give you the opportunity to explore all your options, before you settle down. And who knows? You might end up marrying a hot Latina from Colombia or a dashing Italian hunk.

5. You get to forge a lot of new friendships

When you’re in a serious relationship, you’re most likely just going to hang out with your friends or your partner’s. And unless you have a partner with an adventurous spirit, you’ll be trapped in a world made up of the pubs, restaurants and clubs that you normally go together to.

Even though it’s not applicable to everyone, being in a relationship may mean forgoing the opportunity to meet new interesting folks who can add new insights and perspectives to your life.

I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with your buddies. What I’m trying to say, though, is that there’s a big and colorful world out there begging to be explored and experienced.

6. You will gain more practical knowledge

From politics and geography to art and history, traveling alone will teach you a myriad of things that textbooks and 4-cornered rooms couldn’t. What’s more, it will improve your street smarts, and let you gain practical knowledge that will come in handy in everyday lie. Trust me, it prevents you from becoming a naïve and foolish young lady who doesn’t have a clue in what she’s doing or where she’s going.

7. You can enjoy the moment with no worries

One of the upsides of traveling alone is that you can breathe in, and enjoy the moment without a care in the world. You are free from the pressure to think about the workforce, past, present and future. You’re completely happy, and just living in the moment.

Once you’re in a relationship, you’ll get caught up in daily worries about plans and finances that are only magnified with another individual in the mix. Being on your own, and drinking in the fascinating experiences every moment gives you, is a lot more easily appreciated and absorbed.

8. Life is full of awesome possibilities

Traveling alone will expose you to all kinds of possibilities and surprises. For me, it’s really an incredible, eye-opening, liberating and exciting experience that’s far better than being restricted by one guy or girl. Relationships can be fruitful and good, but they also stop you inadvertently from gaining all these awesome opportunities that you may not be aware of, if you did not pursue solo travel.

Traveling the world will teach you more lessons and things than staying at your backyard and living your life with someone else, especially when you’re in your 20s.

9. You have the space to fully understand yourself

Dating can, very often, take your sense of self, especially in the early stages of your relationship. You may be easily subject to the influence of your partner, and in turn lose yourself unconsciously in the process.

But when you travel alone, you have enough space to learn yourself fully in ways being tied closely with another person can’t. Free from a multitude of distractions, traveling alone lets you dig deep into your thoughts, and discover who you really are.

10. It develops a few handy skills

You are going to develop a few new skills, and enhance the ones you already have. Your ability to adapt as well as your skills in organization and communication will be harness, as you put them to good use, when you travel solo. In fact, you might end up mastering every budget travel tip that you have read in our blog, or learn a handful of foreign phrases along the way. And, did I mention that these skills may come in handy in your career and life?

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Aldrich Infantado
Aldrich Infantado is a travel junkie and a writing aficionado who loves to share amazing travel tips to his fellow travelers.